User blog comment:Morganaforever/The most tragic character relationships in the show/@comment-5102537-20121231112044

Fantastic blog post, Chris! I could write tons and tons again. I don't even know where to begin, but then, I've already wondered about those things on my own blog and this would also be my answer to yours :-)

http://merlin.wikia.com/wiki/User_blog:Fimber/When_family_is_what_destroys_you

Other than that, as for whose fault it is regarding Arthur/Uther, I think it's totally the writer's/producer's fault because "The Death Song of Uther Pendragon" is an epsiode of its own and doesn't fit into the show at all. It made a mockery of four entire seasons, so I don't consider this one to be a continuation or a conclusion of  Uther's character. It was in fact the stupiest thing 've ever seen on a TV show. Their relationship was a great one because I'm not one of those fans who think that educating your children is a bad thing. I know that a lot of fans, especially younger ones, thought or think that being strict (for a king of the dark ages) means to be bad and evil or being a bad father. Uther was a good father and his flaws in regard to his relationship with Arthur didn't change that. Of course, there are always things we disapprove of in regard to our parents, siblings, children... That's totally normal. Arthur was prepared to be king, to rule a kingdom in the dark ages. It's impossible to give your children all the freedom they are having nowadays in our present times. Sometimes the show portayed the relationships as if Arthur and Morgana were the poor opressed kids who couldn't do whatever they wanted. Actually, Uther always stood up for his children and also wanted to sacrifice himself for them (and did in the end), whereas Arthur betrayed his father's honour several times when others spoke ill of him or when he blamed Uther for the things that he himself did or for the things Morgana did. Uther would have never tolerated anyone speaking ill of either Arthur or Morgana, let alone that he himself would have ever done that.

Arthur even wanted an alliance with Sarrum who tortured his sister for two years. Even though I understand that Arthur didn't really like Morgana anymore after everything she's done, I can't imagine Uther tolerating someone torturing his daughter, witch or not. Arthur was a very, very weak person in my opinion.

The relationship between Morgana and Uther was the most complicated one and while I agree with you that in the beginning it was the fault of both of them, in the end it was Morgana's fault alone in my opinion. She knew both sides, being a magical creature and being his daugter and knowing how he felt about magic. She had an advantage over him and it was entirely in her hands to change things, or at least to try to change things. She should have realised that he wouldn't kill her when he went broken and didn't try to send forces after her at the latest. That was when she had proof that he wouldn't kill her because of her powers, but instead of seeing this and changing things, she made everything worse and even killed him in the end. She never gave anyone a chance to accept her. Not Uther, not Arthur, not Gwen, Merlin, Gaius. Since season three it was her fault alone.