User blog comment:Adelina Le Morte March/Statements regarding Arthurian Legend in general I cannot take seriously/@comment-5763053-20130221120059/@comment-5659316-20130224022837

Sigh. WHY is it that every time I use the words "gay" or "slash" as a quote, usually, of something somebody ELSE said, or a  description genre of fanfiction sumarries, or even simply mentioned Arthur and Merlin's NAMES in the same setence, in a blog post in PASSING these days, more than half the comments turn into a debate on "if Arthur and/or Merlin is gay"?

Fimber is right, the producers said what the producers said; you can take it whatever way you want, but you can't just disregard Fimber's comment or call it offensive because you don't like it, people. That's rude. And a bit, if you will forgive me for being a bit harsh, stupid (rest assured I am calling the REACTIONS of some of the posters on here stupid, NOT the people who made the comments themselves).

Calling Fimber (or anyone else who isn't a Merlin/Arthur shipper) against gays is just childish. I'm not playing this game, and I don't think Fimber wants to either. If you're going to be accusatory, please get off my blog post comments at once and don't come back. We're not here to pick or play into fights, and to randomly accuse someone of being against gays does not make you a gay supporter, it makes YOU judgemental of a person you've decided you know the opinons of in and out from one comment.

Also, while I'm here I would like to address a couple of points

1) Just because Arthur said "Hold me" does not make him gay, or 'in love with' Merlin. A parent might hold their child as they die, but that doesn't make them romantically interested in their child. A young man/young woman might hold their grandparent as they die, if the old person with their last breath so asks. A person might even hold their beloved pet DOG as they die. Close friends can be the same way. Are you honestly telling me if you were alone with someone, and mortally wounded,  a friend who had stuck by you for YEARS, you wouldn't ask them to hold you as you died if they were the same sex as you and you weren't gay? I find that very hard to believe. Of ANYONE. I personally HATE to be touched in general (if someone so much as pokes me too hard on the arm, I whine like a little girl) but if I was dying and alone with a good friend heck YES I would ask them to hold me!

I am not attacking anyone's post. I just feel very strongly about this. If someone is a slash shipper, that's their thing so whatever. But making it sound as if you cannot have someone so much as HOLD you without being accused of being gay is a bit...much... I find a tad offensive, really.

2) Merlin knew Freya for 2 days when he was a teenager. That's not love. -I'm going to forgive this comment as a) everyone's entitled to their own opinon and b) the commenter probably didn't realize they were posting this on a blog post written by the biggest Freylin shipper EVER, LOL.

All the same, I still have some things to say about this! First off, if you can't have love (even in a story context) as a teenager that lasts, explain Jamie and Landon from A Walk to Remember. They loved each other deeply, and married, and then she died, and they were only teenagers. I personally believe that Freya and Merlin were extremely compatable and, if they'd been given the chance, they would have eventually grown up and married each other. They really were too much alike not to. Merlin constantly compares himself to her (aka, "it could have been ME in that cage", and when he defended her against Gaius when Gaius said "Freya's very different from you".)

Also, if it wasn't real love, explain why -without using Merthur as a cop out, because Arthur got married so that changes nothing, even if the slash HAD been canon- Merlin NEVER is seen on the show expressing romantic love towards anyone else? Aside from Gwen in season 1, we never see him kiss another girl. You could chalk up his exchanges with Sefa to light flirting, MAYBE, but even that is never really taken anywhere.

To top it off, Merlin/Freya is based on a passionate love story from the older legends, between the dashing Welsh seer Merlin and Nimue/Niniane the lovely Lady of the Lake, though the show's version is much abridged and taken in a vastly different direction (as is much of the Arthurian legend in the series, since it is a re-imagining). I dare anyone to listen to Heather Dale's song about them and not fall head over heels in love with their love story.

But even if you don't LIKE them, you can't say their love wasn't 'real'. And how the heck was his relationship with Lancelot ANYTHING like Freya (aside from the similar funerals he gave them and the fact that they both knew he had magic)?

''  It wasn't even portrayed as particularly romantic - it was more like someone caring for someone who needed him, and with whom he could be himself. ''-Strongly disagree! That IS romance. The fact they were romantically interested in each other and friends who understood each other and could just be themselves was the beauty of their bond. In fact, if I never find someone with whom I can be like Freya and Merlin were, I'll personally never marry. I could only ever romantically love someone who needed me, cared, and could be themselves with me first.

And I think the Arthur/Gwen love story was a little like that too. They'd been around each other a while, as she was Morgana's maid, but they never really realized how compatable they were until in season two when they got to spend some time together and Gwen stood up to him and talked to Arthur like he needed to be talked to. She was a good adviser and caring person with him BEFORE he kissed her and made it a romantic thing.